We all have the capacity to do hurtful things, but we differ from one another in terms of scale-how much we can hurt others, how far we will go to make a statement about our beliefs, how remorseful we might feel in the aftermath of committing a terrible act.

We hold all people to unspoken rules about who and how they should be, how they should think, and what the should say. We say we hate stereotypes but take issue when people deviate from those stereotypes.

In truth, feminism is flawed because it is a movement powered by people and people are inherently flawed.

Most of the serious disagreement I get comes through email or social media, where people are more comfortable.

People do terrible things all the time, but we don’t regularly disown our humanity. We disavow the terrible things.