Obviously the choices of other people affect our lives, but we are the primary creators of our experience.

Since we have free will, we create our own reality and virtually everything is negotiable.

Still, we always have some level of choice, even if it only how we react and make use of what life brings us.

Our consciousness on the physical plane is relatively crude. We view choice making in terms of language, but like time, language is a construct of the physical plane. Nonetheless, on some level and in some way that may be incomprehensible to us now, we chose all the components of who we are—they are not imposed upon it.