We are often so convinced that we are so hurt and in pain, so much so that we opt not to forgive. Yet, as a consequence, that is what will make you weak!

Do not allow yourself to be pulled into the role of embracing victimship as some sort of badge of honor to wear or flash around at any opportunity.

Failing to forgive yourself for certain wrongs you committed in the past can create self-dislike.

The purpose of forgiveness is not to make sure that someone ends up changing into what you expect them to be, as this is dominance. The purpose is actually to make your own life better, more worthy and less stressful. Forgiveness reduces the hold that the wrongdoer has over you and empowers you.

Assuming you are still lost in thought about when exactly you should forgive someone, well the time is NOW.

Pain can cause us to learn no end of lessons, but without resolution there can be no healing!

The pain you have gone through will give you the strength of character to come through it all, so long as you learn from what you have suffered then it was not suffering at all.

What you have suffered after you have healed will make perfect sense.

You are not, though, forgiving so as to let others off with things. You are forgiving so that you can empower yourself to get over it and become strong.