Set the standard! Stop expecting others to show you love, acceptance, commitment, & respect when you don't even show that to yourself.

A key to happiness is to do kind things for others. A key to misery is to expect them to be grateful.

Messy" is a word we use to explain a conflict with an expectation we had. Eliminate the expectation, and you eliminate the "messy".

Our efforts and actions produce results. These results come unlabeled. WE label them as success or failure based on OUR expectations. Don't forget that these labels are interchangeable if we allow ourselves to be free from an unhealthy attachment to our expectations.