Almost no one ever finds a person with whom they miraculously and intuitively connect across all areas.

However compelling someone may appear to be at the outset, time almost inevitably reveals them as a bit maddening in multiple ways.

We would be better off assuming from the outset that a relatively pronounced degree of pain and discord is going to be our lot.

No one is intuitively good at love.

Through this book, we confront an odd but crucial thought: that love is a skill, not an emotion...

The road to calmer relationships therefore isn’t necessarily about removing points of contention. It’s rather about assuming that they are going to happen and that they will inevitably require quite a lot of time and thought to address

We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity.