Gaslighting is mind control to make victims doubt their reality.

Gaslighting is confusing because they switch to intermittent concern.

Gaslighting is a slow unconscious loss of reality.

Gaslighting is a distorted alternate reality.

As a child of a narcissistic mother I was never told I could do anything right. Disapproval was the "normal" of my life. I was never taught to believe in myself, nor was I guided to better choices. I was alone in figuring out life. Deep inside my self-esteem was uncertain and unsure, on the surface I looked confident because I was told to act that way.

You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people.

Babies cry to get their needs met. Narcissists are great actors and often use tears as a tool of manipulations, this is an abuse tactic! Do not allow them to let this work as guilt, they are acting!

You have the right to set a boundary about anything you want. Define it, announce it, honor it.

Illusions are dangerous because they have no faults. Victims of abuse have illusions that the abuser is a good person, because they told them so.