You don't need to know people in order to grieve with them. You grieve with them in order to know them.

Unresolved grief inside a person is tragic; unresolved grief inside a nation is catastrophic.

No one should be asked to feel empathy or compassion for their oppressors. I have learned that we do not need to feel anything for our opponents at all in order to practice love. Love is labor that returns us to wonder—it is seeing another person's humanity, even if they deny their own. We just have to choose to wonder about them.

When we leave people alone with their pain, their alienation becomes the precondition for radicalization.

To break another's bones, to take their life, is to forgo wonder: It is to cut off a part of ourselves that we do not yet know. I choose nonviolence because it is moral and strategic.

On the other side of rage awaits the ability to wonder again at the spinning world.