The very nature of compassion and forgiveness does not imply the hindrance of self but rather the understanding towards another. In order to truly understand another, you must first understand self and your stance within any situation.

When we free up the resistance within us we are able to approach any situation from a place of clarity. When you enter into any situation with a particular stance it is primarily filtered through your perspective. Even if you try and run through the scenario of how your partner may feel and what they may be thinking something will be missed because you are only filtering it through your level of understanding.

Relationships fail because the people involved have a hard time managing and navigating the relationship with their self and the relationship with the other as a whole. And when you take into account the relationships within each partner’s lives, such as friends, family, and acquaintance, the relationship requires more effort, understanding, and communication to properly navigate.

Surrendering is having an openness, it is a blossoming and encompasses the ability, to be honest, vulnerable, and trust another. Surrendering is not the same as giving into everything your partner says or throwing away your stance without reason. Surrendering is ending the resistance within you and the relationship as whole by coming together mutually and (w)holistically for the purpose of a greater understanding.