You're creating it all. Nobody else is doing it to you.

here's a payoff for everyone. The reason we hang on to self-defeating behaviors is because it's easier not to take responsibility.

Enlightenment demands that you take responsibility for your way of life.

Blame is a neat little device that you can use whenever you don't want to take responsibility for something in your life. Use it and you will avoid all risks and impede your own growth.