39 Quotes About Abusive-men
- Author Lundy Bancroft
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It is fine to commiserate with a man about his bad experience with a previous partner, but the instant he uses her as an excuse to mistreat you, stop believing anything he tells you about that relationship and instead recognize it as a sign that he has problems with relating to women.
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- Author Lundy Bancroft
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When a man starts my program, he often says, “I am here because I lose control of myself sometimes. I need to get a better grip.” I always correct him: "Your problem is not that you lose control of yourself, it’s that you take control of your partner. In order to change, you don’t need to gain control over yourself, you need to let go of control of her.
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- Author Kingsley Opuwari Manuel
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Abuse is the weakest expression of strength. It is weakness to destroy what you ought to protect, build and make better.
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- Author Beverly Engel
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•The abusive partner continually denies any responsibility for problems.
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- Author Lundy Bancroft
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Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical freedom and safety as a way to control you.
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- Author Lundy Bancroft
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Never believe a man’s claim that he has to harm his partner in order to protect her; only abusers think this way.
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- Author Lundy Bancroft
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The underlying attitude comes bursting out of his words: He believes his wife is keeping something of his away from him when she doesn’t want intimate contact. He sees sexual rights to a woman as akin to mineral rights to land—and he owns them.
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- Author Lundy Bancroft
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The central attitudes driving the Drill Sergeant are:I need to control your every move or you will do it wrong.I know the exact way that everything should be done.You shouldn’t have anyone else — or any thing else — in your life besides me.I am going to watch you like a hawk to keep you from developing strength or independence.I love you more than anyone in the world, but you disgust me. (!!)
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- Author Lundy Bancroft
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Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once.
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