97 Quotes About Abusive-relationships

Do not be blind in love and try not to suffer in silence. -Alba Castillo

•The abusive partner continually denies any responsibility for problems.

Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical freedom and safety as a way to control you.

Being a victim is supposed to set you free; it acquits you of any agency, any sense of responsibility to the person who did you harm. It's not your fault, they say. Leave him, they say. Nobody ever tells you what to do if leaving isn't an option.They just call you stupid. A dumb bitch.Sympathy is only meted out if you follow all ofsociety's rules for how a victim is supposed to behave.

When you go through the moments where you are questioning yourself whether or not it was abuse, remember the way it made you feel. Push away the nostalgia that is trying to minimize it, trying to trick you like a bad magician at a children’s party that the rabbit did come from the hat, that love and abuse come from the same hat.

Being abused causes pain, outrage, hate, vengeance, confusion, and misery can only break what goodness remains.

When I thought about how much time I had already put into a relationship without reciprocation from the other person and how I spent YEARS recovering and trying to recover from the damage of her verbal, emotional and physical abuse and neglect, I realized that I was the only one trying and I wasn’t the problem! That understanding changed everything!

RR [Robert Rodriguez] of course said the traditional macho thing: 'I'm going to beat him up.' Of course he never did, never would: you see, RR was a faux tough guy. As most bullies are.

Narcissists are very retaliative if they believe another has achieved what they desire, exposed their insecurities, or refused to be under their control.