142 Quotes About Domestic-abuse

Suspicion of Abuse gets to your toes before you see it in your face.

Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. If he raises a fist; punches a hole in the wall; throws things at you; blocks your way; restrains you; grabs, pushes, or pokes you; or threatens to hurt you, that’s physical abuse. He is creating fear and using your need for physical freedom and safety as a way to control you.

Never believe a man’s claim that he has to harm his partner in order to protect her; only abusers think this way.

The central attitudes driving the Drill Sergeant are:I need to control your every move or you will do it wrong.I know the exact way that everything should be done.You shouldn’t have anyone else — or any thing else — in your life besides me.I am going to watch you like a hawk to keep you from developing strength or independence.I love you more than anyone in the world, but you disgust me. (!!)

As tears fall from her faceshe begins to swayLove shouldn't hurt this way.

When we hear these kinds of excuses from a drunk, we assume they are exactly that—excuses. We don’t consider an active alcoholic a reliable source of insight. So why should we let an angry and controlling man be the authority on partner abuse?

She looks in the mirrorseems vaguely familiarlike steam on the glassshame covers her pastthe fog slithers downas evil surrounds.

Smothered by controla tormented soultrapped in his castleHer tears rolling mistproof she existsin Snow White Darkness.

Violent men, and men in authority over violent men, and the broader public that authorises those men, are not yet shamed by the harm of coercive control over women ... Maybe we can rest some hope on the growing activity of men of goodwill calling on each other to change. When that group hits a critical mass, the majority of men will be more likely to want to change.