901 Quotes About Gender

It is as though they simply cannot contemplate the notion of a short, slight man who dresses and moves like a popular (mis)conception of a homosexual being attractive to millions of women.

If one does not make an ego out of gender, one would still know whether one is a man or a woman, gay, straight, bisexual, transgender—whatever else we may think of. But those identities need to fit very loosely and be worn very lightly. All sense of privilege or deprivation that has developed around one’s gender identity, all rigidity regarding proper roles and behaviors for the various genders, must be cut through.

Anyhow, with their extraordinary gift for, and experience in, affairs of the heart from the double point of view, both of the man and of the woman it is not difficult to see that these people have a special work to do as reconcilers and interpreters of the two sexes to each other.

Let me tell you something, boys and girls, you can "straight act" all you want, but if you're sleeping with your own sex, to the rest of the world, you're as gay as John Waters living in a pink tent with Rachel Maddow while watching Drag Race. You might as well own it.

Ideas often dance a capella

My ideas of gender and sexuality reflected those of my parents. They did not raise me not to be a homophobe. They rarely talked about gay and lesbian people. Ideas often dance a capella. Their silence erased queer existence as thoroughly as integrationists erased the reality of integrated White spaces.

Love is gender less, I mean love is sexless and love is sexless, I mean love is gender less

He'd convinced himself that his wanting me was my fault.And I believed him.'Look what I do to these poor boys,' I thought. And yet also, 'Here is my value, my power.'So when he dumped me – because he was bored with me, because he'd found someone else more exciting – I felt both a deep relief and a very real sense of failure.

I am jealous. I’m envious of the easy options all the rest of you enjoy. To date someone or not to date someone? Does she like him? Does he like her? You can try out whatever you like and change your minds at any time. Everyone is available to everyone else. Me? I might be permitted to admire someone from afar, to harbor a yearning in secret, but to act on it would cost me everything.