165 Quotes About Life-advice

None of us has an obligation to accept the definitions of ‘respect’ and ‘gratitude’ our parents espoused, especially when those definitions can be used to guilt-trip us, or when they are being used for the purpose of forcing us to do certain things (as an extortion mechanism).

That’s not our role here, provide our parents with a “success story” to share at gatherings. Our role here is to contribute the best we can to the society. Use our talents and make sure we add the greatest value possible to other people’s lives.

We grow up in a belief system according to which children should always make their parents proud and happy (instead of making themselves proud and happy) - and that’s unfortunately the belief system in most cultures.

It’s safer/ easier to follow the script and complain how broken some things are in that script, than to attempt to change those things.

They know a lot, but they don’t know everything, and they can’t advise you on anything.They can only tell you what they believe worked / or didn’t work for them.

They (parents) use this guilt-tripping to stop you from fulfilling your plans, but most important, from believing something they don’t (something which contradicts their beliefs)

Utu--Maori revenge. 'Do everything well, boy. Do it better than them. Be a better rugby player, better at your job. Outshine them everywhere. Tramp on their pride. Go far, and leave them sniveling in your dust.

Define strong boundaries, but remain kind. Be fearless and never afraid to say what you really think or feel. It is the denial of our truths that complicates life. There is no need to fear what you feel unless you have no ability to control the way your feelings make you react - this is when you should fear. Anything else is wasted energy. Life is meant to be lived - not hidden from.

Be around people that make you want to be a better person, who make you feel good, make you laugh, and remind you what's important in life.