4,465 Quotes About Psychology

Certainly when we are in the throes of unrelenting or excessive guilt it is extremely difficult for us to enjoy our lives in any substantial way. Things that used to bring pleasure, joy, or excitement lose their appeal, not because we no longer enjoy them, but because we no longer permit ourselves to do so.

When we fail in tasks in which our expectations for success are low, the psychological wounds failure inflicts are relatively minor. But when we possess the necessary skills and abilities to succeed and have expectations of doing so we are likely to feel much stronger pressure to perform well.

When we fail repeatedly or when we respond to failure in ways that set back our confidence, our self-esteem, and our chances of future success, we run the risk of allowing our emotional chest cold to turn into psychological pneumonia.

...research has repeatedly demonstrated the most effective way to treat psychological wounds failure inflicts is to find the positive lessons in what happened.

But the way our fears work, if we don't own them and if we don't talk about them, our mind will find other ways of expressing them.

When our self-esteem is low, we are far less likely to attribute slips in willpower to mental and emotional fatigue (which are the more likely culprits) and far more likely to assume they reflect fundamental character deficits.

Higher self esteem is essentially an outcome of doing well in our lives and relationships.

To have an impact on our self-esteem, feelings of personal empowerment must be supported by evidence of having actual influence in the various spheres of our lives, whether in our relationships, in our social or professional contexts, as citizens, or even as consumers.

Viewing slips as simple alerts that our willpower is fatigued and needs to recover (instead as indications of failure) will alliw us to acknowledge the lapse without getting further off track.