875 Quotes About Shame

If we keep our heads down, either out of defeat or loss or shame or tiredness... whatever the reason, we are going to miss the beautiful sun (and Son) that is right there in front of us, shining its warmth on our faces and our souls!

To know that we are only angels weighed down by filth, free of guilt? The bacteria in our bellies are responsible for the farts which shame us, tiny monsters shitting in their billions all over our pure skin create the acid reek of "our" sweat. And Slade: when the "inner voices" tell us we're unworthy or instruct us to "love" and "hate," despite our best instincts... are these incessant distracting thoughts our own? Or do we only hear the voice of the eternal germ screaming in our heads?

Wakati mwingine tukitaka kutambulika hatuna budi kuweka mbele aibu ya heshima yetu.

Ukitaka kutambulika usione aibu.

He had nothing else to say. His shame already spoke volumes.

Tonight, I feel painIt’s pain from something I endured years agoIt’s a hurt that comes every few monthsA pain I’ve come to know as shameIt holds my tongue and doesn’t let me tellIt is not my shame to holdYet it holds me down like a foot at my throat

It is easy to see how quickly expectations become layered, competitive and conflicting. This is how the shame web works. We have very few realistic options that allow us to meet any of these expectations. Most of the options that we do have feel like a "double bind." When Marilyn Frye describes a double bind as "a situation in which options are very limited and all of them expose us to penalty, censure or deprivation.

Women most often experience shame as a web of layered, conflicting, and competing social-community expectations. The expectations dictate who we should be, what we should be, how we should be.

Many of us express pain and shame over what we think people are thinking about us. This is an unhealthy mindset on which to focus and can be the source of significant emotional and physical illness.