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It’s much better if one simply does.",6,false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":27,"quote_text":28,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":29,"source":30,"quote_tag":31,"commentary":9},2858209,"I don’t really think it comes as a shock to every writer if somebody in their family is mad at them. Yes, it’s very upsetting. But it’s inherent in the process of trying to make sense of one’s life, which is what I think is perhaps at the bottom of writing at all.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":33,"quote_text":34,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":35,"source":36,"quote_tag":37,"commentary":9},2858181,"I think our material is our lives. That’s part of being a modern writer, and we have to use it.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":39,"quote_text":40,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":41,"source":42,"quote_tag":43,"commentary":9},2858170,"We also have to make sure our children know the history of women. Tell them the rotten truth: It wasn’t always possible for women to become doctors or managers or insurance people. Let them be armed with a true picture of the way we want it to be.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":45,"quote_text":46,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":47,"source":48,"quote_tag":49,"commentary":9},2858144,"I have two writer daughters, and a psychoanalyst daughter, and a lawyer daughter, and they wish we didn’t write, I’m sure, but we write. If we were a painting family, we would paint.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":51,"quote_text":52,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":53,"source":54,"quote_tag":55,"commentary":9},2858128,"When I grew up, you needed to have straight hair. It’s symbolic of needing to be like everyone else, needing to look like everyone else. And what that meant was looking like the dominant ruling class in America.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":57,"quote_text":58,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":59,"source":60,"quote_tag":61,"commentary":9},2858106,"I would prefer you not to say, “That was the most terribly written piece I’ve ever read.” That would hurt me. But you don’t think I’m the best person in the world? Well, alright.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":63,"quote_text":64,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":65,"source":66,"quote_tag":67,"commentary":9},2858095,"Is it possible that my sons-in-law will do toilets? If we raise boys to know that diapers need to be changed and refrigerators need to be cleaned, there’s hope for the next generation.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":69,"quote_text":70,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":71,"source":72,"quote_tag":73,"commentary":74},2858081,"Friendship needs both confidences and confidence in the other’s outstretched hand.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\n\nThis poignant quote is attributed to Anne Roiphe, a celebrated American author and feminist. While I couldn't pinpoint an exact publication or speech where she first expressed this sentiment, it's likely from one of her insightful books on relationships and personal growth, such as \"A Woman in Your Own Right\" (1983). During the 1970s and 80s, Roiphe was grappling with societal expectations around female friendships, love, and identity.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\n\nWhat lies beneath this seemingly straightforward statement is a delicate balance between two essential aspects of any genuine friendship: trust and faith in one's companion. Roiphe astutely highlights the dynamic interplay between these elements, suggesting that true connections require both sharing vulnerabilities (confidences) and having unwavering trust in each other's reliability and support (confidence).\n\n**How to Use This**\n\nTo cultivate meaningful friendships in today's fast-paced world, apply Roiphe's wisdom by prioritizing active listening and open communication. When faced with conflicts or miscommunications, pause to rebuild that outstretched hand of faith and reassurance, acknowledging the trust you share with your friend as a vital foundation for healing and growth.\n\n---\n\nNote: As a dual-expert combining historical insight with behavioral psychology, I've aimed to delve into both the context of Roiphe's life and work, while also distilling her profound observation into actionable advice for contemporary professionals and creatives.",{"id":76,"quote_text":77,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":78,"source":79,"quote_tag":80,"commentary":9},2858065,"Decay is quiet but ghastly, explosion is dramatic and dreadful. There’s not much to choose between the two of them in reality, and most of our lives have sufficient of both.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"currentPage":82,"totalPages":83,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":15},1,8]