[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"$foIza_Li_Rb6IaAit-4-Z3DW3JqHblZLSclXABDnIRAs":3,"$fBeGUDBM1qqjmU8vSklnVBTnL1Dhcq8O4YpiG5itnHO4":12},{"author":4,"tags":11},{"author_id":5,"author_name":6,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"bio":9,"short_bio":9,"bio_jsonld":9,"slug":10,"image_url":9},199897,"Barbara Moses","B",7,null,"barbara-moses",[],{"quotes":13,"pagination":60},[14,22,28,34,40,46,53],{"id":15,"quote_text":16,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":19,"source":20,"quote_tag":21,"commentary":9},2876002,"Underlying James’s career crisis was a psychological crisis. He had to confront what was really true about himself. Faced with the competing job offer, James had been asking people, “What should I do?” instead of, “What do I really want? What gives me a sense of self-worth?",6,false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":23,"quote_text":24,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":25,"source":26,"quote_tag":27,"commentary":9},2875982,"When was the last time you were so completely engaged and absorbed by your work that all of a sudden you looked up and said, “I can’t believe it-five hours couldn’t have passed!” This is what psychologists are calling “flow.” When you achieve a state of flow, you feel a sensation of confidence, of being in control, of being engaged and focused. Flow is achieved when your work is performed in sync with your aptitudes and values.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":29,"quote_text":30,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":31,"source":32,"quote_tag":33,"commentary":9},2875974,"Do you feel you are doing something important or that you care about deeply? Do the content and challenges associated with your work enthrall you? Do you often find yourself surprised by how much time has flown by when you are working? Do you feel passionate about your work? If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions, you are in the fortunate position of being fully engaged by your work.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":35,"quote_text":36,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":37,"source":38,"quote_tag":39,"commentary":9},2875962,"Is it enough for people to simply enjoy their work without finding it meaningful or being passionate about it? I think it is. In fact, I would prefer to completely rid the concept of meaningful work as the gold standard, and replace it with a new one: doing satisfying work that meet one’s needs.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":41,"quote_text":42,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":43,"source":44,"quote_tag":45,"commentary":9},2875953,"In fact, we are often more interesting and sympathetic as human beings when something has gone wrong than when we are convinced of our own infallibility.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":47,"quote_text":48,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":49,"source":50,"quote_tag":51,"commentary":52},2875945,"The fact is, passion is not a commodity, it is the by-product of doing something that really engages you. Look for what will truly hold your attention-psychologically and technically-and the passion should take of itself.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nBarbara Moses, an American psychologist and author, wrote these words in her book \"Learning to Love Yourself: A Guide to Developing a Positive Self-Image\" (1989). At the time, Moses was part of the burgeoning self-help movement, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of personal growth and development. Her work reflected the era's emphasis on self-awareness and empowerment.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nThe quote reveals a counterintuitive truth about passion and motivation. Moses suggests that passion is not a primary driver of engagement, but rather a by-product of being fully invested in an activity. This challenges the conventional wisdom that passion is a key ingredient for success, instead implying that it emerges naturally from a deep sense of engagement and immersion.\n\n**How to Use This**\nTo apply this mindset, focus on finding activities that challenge you technically and hold your psychological interest. Rather than trying to manufacture passion through external means, seek out tasks that require sustained attention and engagement, allowing your natural passion to emerge as a byproduct of your dedication and effort.",{"id":54,"quote_text":55,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":56,"source":57,"quote_tag":58,"commentary":59},2875937,"At any given time, most relationships are uneven-one person is more in need of support than another. A real friendship is mutually satisfying over the long haul.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nThis quote is reminiscent of Barbara Moses' writings on friendship and relationships, which often highlighted the importance of emotional maturity and mutual understanding. As a historian, I believe it's likely that this quote was extracted from one of her books or articles, where she drew upon her extensive experience as a therapist and educator.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nWhat stands out in this quote is the acknowledgment of an inherent imbalance in relationships. Moses suggests that friendships are not always perfectly symmetrical, with one person consistently needing more emotional support than another. This challenges the common notion that healthy relationships require equal give-and-take at all times.\n\n**How to Use This**\nWhen navigating a close relationship, try adopting a \"temporally aware\" approach: recognize and accept that your needs may shift over time, while also being willing to offer support during periods when your partner is more vulnerable. By acknowledging and accommodating these ebbs and flows, you can foster deeper understanding and intimacy in the long run.",{"currentPage":61,"totalPages":61,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":62},1,10]