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Given the context of her work, it's possible that this quote was said during a time when she was reflecting on her own experiences with assertiveness and setting boundaries.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nWhat most people might miss in this quote is the subtle yet powerful subversion of traditional social norms around politeness and deference. Lee is suggesting that being \"honest\" and direct, rather than trying to appease others through sugarcoated language or excessive courtesy, can be a more effective way to establish healthy relationships.\n\n**How to Use This**\nTo apply this mindset today, consider the times when you feel like you're sacrificing your own needs or boundaries in an effort to avoid conflict. 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