[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"$ftdhW9pT3lngG_dlPpTLF5A3qdFxWMjXzQl4g9Ha8tfc":3,"$fJGgZPH55ugExDUvAyJWT_kT0aufkwkGNkuP788N4A94":12},{"author":4,"tags":11},{"author_id":5,"author_name":6,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"bio":9,"short_bio":9,"slug":10,"image_url":9},25718,"H. Norman Wright","H",7,null,"h-norman-wright",[],{"quotes":13,"pagination":90},[14,22,28,34,46,57,68],{"id":15,"quote_text":16,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":19,"source":20,"quote_tag":21,"commentary":9},3062444,"What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.",6,false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":23,"quote_text":24,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":25,"source":26,"quote_tag":27,"commentary":9},3062438,"It’s been suggested that successful communication consists of 7 percent content, 38 percent tone of voice, and 55 percent nonverbal communication. We’re usually aware of the content of what we’re saying, but not nearly as aware of our tone of voice.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":29,"quote_text":30,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":31,"source":32,"quote_tag":33,"commentary":9},3062433,"As a culture, we seem to have an intolerance for suffering; we tend to want those who have experienced a loss of any kind to get on with their lives as quickly as possible. Often, by minimizing the impact of significant losses, pathologizing those whose reactions are intense, and applauding those who seem relatively unaffected by tragic events, we encourage the inhibition of our own grief.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":35,"quote_text":36,"author_id":5,"source_id":37,"has_image":18,"author":38,"source":39,"quote_tag":40,"commentary":9},659871,"Every person is different. Yet often, those differences are not understood or valued by others.",2,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[41],{"id":42,"tag":43},3352479,{"id":44,"tag_name":45},6869,"differences",{"id":47,"quote_text":48,"author_id":5,"source_id":37,"has_image":18,"author":49,"source":50,"quote_tag":51,"commentary":9},652667,"Is constructive criticism really constructive? Not really. You can't make a child better by pointing out what you think is wrong with him or her. Criticism either crushes spirit or elicits defensiveness. Constructive criticism is an interesting combination of words. \"Construct\" means \"to build.\" \"Criticism\" means \"to tear down\" It creates defiance and anger as well.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[52],{"id":53,"tag":54},3329360,{"id":55,"tag_name":56},6481,"constructive-criticism",{"id":58,"quote_text":59,"author_id":5,"source_id":37,"has_image":18,"author":60,"source":61,"quote_tag":62,"commentary":9},578445,"Listening is a gift of spiritual significance that you can learn to give to others. When you listen, you give one a sense of importance, hope and love that he or she may not receive any other way. Through listening, we nurture and validate the feelings one has, especially when he or she experiences difficulties in life.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[63],{"id":64,"tag":65},3084364,{"id":66,"tag_name":67},3494,"listening",{"id":69,"quote_text":70,"author_id":5,"source_id":37,"has_image":18,"author":71,"source":72,"quote_tag":73,"commentary":89},119183,"In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic; a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts; an enabler rather than a reformer.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[74,79,84],{"id":75,"tag":76},797106,{"id":77,"tag_name":78},25,"love",{"id":80,"tag":81},797109,{"id":82,"tag_name":83},95,"marriage",{"id":85,"tag":86},797114,{"id":87,"tag_name":88},101,"relationships","**The Backstory**\n\nThis quote is likely from H. Norman Wright's book \"Strengthening Your Marriage\", first published in 1973. During that time, the social and cultural landscape was shifting, with a growing emphasis on personal growth and marital relationships. The author was reflecting on the changing dynamics of marriage and the need for couples to navigate new challenges together.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\n\nThe hidden insight here is that encouragement, forgiveness, and enabling are not inherently natural or effortless states; rather, they require a deliberate shift from criticism, resentment, and control. This tension highlights the paradoxical nature of effective relationships, where individuals must balance their own needs and desires with those of their partner.\n\n**How to Use This**\n\nTo apply this mindset today, consider that effective relationships require a constant effort to reorient your focus from what's not working to what can be strengthened through mutual support. By prioritizing encouragement over criticism, you'll create a safe space for open communication and growth, allowing both partners to evolve together.",{"currentPage":91,"totalPages":91,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":92},1,10]