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She watches him, and she wants to tell him that he can put all his hate on her; she will take it all, if that’s what he needs her to do. Listen, really listen, and that’s what she is saying in her silence. The boy can’t help but hear.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\n\nJustin Torres, an American author and academic, wrote this poignant passage in his debut novel \"We the Animals\" (2011). The narrative is a semi-autobiographical account of his childhood growing up with two older brothers in a troubled household in rural New York during the 1980s. This quote highlights a pivotal moment in the story where the narrator's mother attempts to connect with her eldest son, who has become increasingly distant and hostile.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\n\nWhat lies beneath this heart-wrenching scene is the recognition that our silences often speak louder than our words. The mother, desperate for connection and understanding, resorts to silence as a means of communication, allowing her presence to be felt rather than forcing her emotions onto her son. This subtle yet powerful gesture underscores the idea that sometimes, it's not what we say but how we choose to listen (or not) that reveals our true intentions.\n\n**How to Use This**\n\nIn today's fast-paced, often loud and cluttered professional landscape, this insight reminds us of the importance of active listening as a leadership strategy. Rather than trying to dominate conversations or offer solutions, leaders can use silence to create space for others to express themselves, fostering deeper connections and more meaningful relationships with colleagues, clients, and team members.",{"id":36,"quote_text":37,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":38,"source":39,"quote_tag":40,"commentary":9},3179509,"I don’t think that any family has a function. I just think that a family is. 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He was wearing corduroy pants, and I would have liked to drag my fingernail across his thigh. “You hiding?” “I’m just sitting here,” I said. “Yeah, never mind,” he said. “I guess you’re a bit young for that. 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So where something that, to a child, just is what it is – you know, your father’s violent but he loves you and that’s just the way it is – later on you realize that this is like different, shameful, blah blah blah.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":72,"quote_text":73,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":74,"source":75,"quote_tag":76,"commentary":9},3179450,"Shame doesn’t exist in the animal kingdom. It’s a human conception.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"currentPage":78,"totalPages":79,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":80},1,4,10]