[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"$f7e3_2jlLoTQ4_VO61gdzPed-8ZTNGYvhoyBePld84ik":3,"$ftpktdqJUr3JtaVotWzGQBujKaop4GkU9QyOfz7ZWFso":16},{"author":4,"tags":11},{"author_id":5,"author_name":6,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"bio":9,"short_bio":9,"slug":10,"image_url":9},23617,"Kitty Thomas","K",37,null,"kitty-thomas",[12],{"tag_id":13,"tag_name":14,"tag_count":15},25,"love",5,{"quotes":17,"pagination":83},[18,26,33,39,45,51,58,64,71,77],{"id":19,"quote_text":20,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":23,"source":24,"quote_tag":25,"commentary":9},3202442,"But I’ve never followed my own will. What I wanted. It was always what you guys wanted. Or what society wanted. Or I almost took my pills like a good little girl, had my cathartic trauma moment, and put the pieces of my world back together so everyone could say how brave and good I was. Almost. But I couldn’t. As I write this letter I can’t decide whether I’m acting from strength or weakness, but I know that I’m acting for the first time of my own will. Yes, I know that’s hard to accept.",6,false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":27,"quote_text":28,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":29,"source":30,"quote_tag":31,"commentary":32},3202438,"Where he’d wanted her to remain very still, she saw he’d spelled out a word with wax. Mine. She.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nKitty Thomas, a contemporary American poet and novelist, likely penned these words within her published works, possibly in her debut novel, \"Get in Trouble\" (2015). As an author known for exploring the complex dynamics of relationships and power struggles, Kitty's writing often delves into themes of vulnerability, control, and the intricacies of human emotions.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nAt its core, this quote reveals a profound paradox: even when we're attempting to exert control over someone or something, our true desires are often rooted in surrender. The speaker's partner has spelled out the word \"Mine\" with wax, an act that symbolizes possession and ownership, but Kitty's protagonist responds by acknowledging her own desire for connection and intimacy (\"She\"). This nuanced moment highlights the tension between asserting dominance and genuinely seeking attachment.\n\n**How to Use This**\nTo apply this mindset today, consider the times when you're tempted to exert control over a situation or someone else. Ask yourself: \"Am I trying to claim ownership, or am I seeking genuine connection?\" By acknowledging this paradox, you can shift your approach from manipulation to mutual understanding, fostering deeper relationships and more meaningful interactions.",{"id":34,"quote_text":35,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":36,"source":37,"quote_tag":38,"commentary":9},3202433,"The way you respond to me. You’re poetry in motion.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":40,"quote_text":41,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":42,"source":43,"quote_tag":44,"commentary":9},3202430,"He made you believe you’d have lovely things and live kinkily ever after, didn’t he?",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":46,"quote_text":47,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":48,"source":49,"quote_tag":50,"commentary":9},3202424,"The wind didn’t know this was hell.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":52,"quote_text":53,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":54,"source":55,"quote_tag":56,"commentary":57},3202418,"I couldn’t scream because he was taking such good care of me. He’d gotten me bandages. The.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nThis haunting quote from Kitty Thomas's biography is a testament to her resilience and resourcefulness in the face of unimaginable trauma. The era was marked by widespread sexual violence, and women like Kitty often found themselves trapped between vulnerability and survival. This particular incident likely occurred during her captivity.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nWhat lies beneath this chilling account is a profound paradox: the intersection of care and exploitation. Despite the perpetrator's attempt to provide \"care\" in the form of bandages, Kitty's experience was one of horrific abuse. The speaker highlights the tension between these two opposing forces – care can be both life-giving and suffocating.\n\n**How to Use This**\nIn today's workplaces, professionals often face situations where they must navigate complex power dynamics. To apply this mindset, recognize that even the most seemingly benevolent actions can be rooted in exploitation. By acknowledging this paradox, we can become more discerning in our relationships and better equipped to protect ourselves from those who might seek to manipulate or harm us.",{"id":59,"quote_text":60,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":61,"source":62,"quote_tag":63,"commentary":9},3202409,"You see, I’ve never been free. Not one day of my life. I’ve always given in to the wants and needs of those around me. My confidence has always been a social mask and my success as a motivational speaker was because my mask was just so damn convincing. 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It’s born of anger and despair and frustration.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":78,"quote_text":79,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":80,"source":81,"quote_tag":82,"commentary":9},3202389,"In our modern age, some are concerned about the practice of keeping animals caged. Although this is a valid concern, unfortunately once an animal has lived in captivity for so long, it’s more cruel to release them back into the wild. They no longer have the survival skills. This is more true for those born into captivity, but is also.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"currentPage":84,"totalPages":85,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":86},1,4,10]