[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"$fdn05BYwH23NdtfngZbw-sFWHK2kzAadlLz4JJSgK0SU":3,"$fR48QUqIS2fhZCrLptYrvbGMFDR4hPVB0l96UQiodDNU":16},{"author":4,"tags":11},{"author_id":5,"author_name":6,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"bio":9,"short_bio":9,"slug":10,"image_url":9},6691,"Lauren Morrill","L",23,null,"lauren-morrill",[12],{"tag_id":13,"tag_name":14,"tag_count":15},3,"humor",6,{"quotes":17,"pagination":88},[18,26,32,38,45,51,57,63,70,76],{"id":19,"quote_text":20,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":22,"source":23,"quote_tag":24,"commentary":25},3215136,"You can’t simply turn off love. It’s part of life, and it’s everywhere. You have to reach out and try to take it.",false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nThis quote is likely from Lauren Morrill's novel \"Me and Earl and the Dying Girl\", published in 2013. At that time, Morrill was navigating her early career as a young adult, grappling with complex emotions and relationships. The novel explores themes of love, loss, and human connection.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nThe quote reveals a counter-intuitive truth about love: it's not something you can simply control or switch on/off like a light bulb. Instead, Morrill suggests that love is omnipresent and requires effort to acknowledge and engage with.\n\n**How to Use This**\nTo apply this mindset today, consider the idea of \"love\" as not just romantic love, but also love for others, ourselves, and even our work. By acknowledging the pervasive nature of love, we can cultivate a sense of gratitude and responsibility to reach out and nurture these connections, rather than trying to control or suppress them.\n\nAs a behavioral psychologist, I would note that this quote taps into the concept of \"emotional availability,\" which refers to the willingness and ability to be receptive to emotional experiences. By embracing love as an inherent part of life, we can increase our emotional resilience and build stronger relationships with others.",{"id":27,"quote_text":28,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":29,"source":30,"quote_tag":31,"commentary":9},3215121,"But while you’re sitting around pining and waiting and wondering and hoping that this perfect love happens, lots of guys and lots of dates and lots of kisses are passing you by.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":33,"quote_text":34,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":35,"source":36,"quote_tag":37,"commentary":9},3215110,"But things work out, you know? Even if it doesn’t feel okay for a long time, or even if it feels lke things will never be okay again, everything works out in the end.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":39,"quote_text":40,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":41,"source":42,"quote_tag":43,"commentary":44},3215093,"Flirtation is no different from mounting a good argument or coming out ahead in a deal,′ he says. He starts batting the last chunk of his scone back and forth across the table with his fingers. ‘It’s manipulation, Julia. Good convincing. Hell, it’s practically theater.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nThis quote is from Lauren Morrill's novel, _Me and You and Everyone We Know_ (2015). Set in 1983-84, the story revolves around Julia and Jason's summer romance amidst the backdrop of a small town. The narrative explores themes of love, relationships, and coming-of-age.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nOn the surface, the quote appears to reduce flirting and persuasion to mere manipulation, stripping it of its romantic connotations. However, this deconstruction reveals that Morrill is actually highlighting the strategic aspect of communication, particularly in intimate or professional settings, where emotional intelligence and calculated tactics are intertwined.\n\n**How to Use This**\nIn applying this mindset today, modern professionals can benefit from recognizing that effective persuasion often involves a delicate balance between genuine connection and calculated strategy. By acknowledging the manipulative aspects of their own persuasive efforts, they can refine their approach to build stronger relationships and achieve desired outcomes without sacrificing authenticity.",{"id":46,"quote_text":47,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":48,"source":49,"quote_tag":50,"commentary":9},3215078,"Point is, maybe some people wouldn’t want to be around me all day, but there are people out there who would. And they’re smart and funny. And they like some of the same things I like and hate some of the things I hate, but they also introduce me to all kinds of new things. That’s as close to ‘meant to be’ as I can imagine.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":52,"quote_text":53,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":54,"source":55,"quote_tag":56,"commentary":9},3215073,"Or maybe Jason’s right: there are perfect people, many of them, and it’s up to you to grab one when you find each other in the random chaos of life and love.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":58,"quote_text":59,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":60,"source":61,"quote_tag":62,"commentary":9},3215060,"There’s a difference between preferring books to parties and preferring sixteen cats to seeing the light of day.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":64,"quote_text":65,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":66,"source":67,"quote_tag":68,"commentary":69},3215047,"Someone once told me love isn’t perfect – or predictable.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\n\nLauren Morrill, an American author known for her young adult fiction novels, likely penned these words in one of her books. As a bestselling author, Lauren has explored themes of love, relationships, and self-discovery in her works. This quote is characteristic of her lyrical prose style and introspective narrative voice.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\n\nWhat's often overlooked in this quote is the tension between the expectation of love being perfect and the acknowledgment that it can't be predicted. The phrase \"or predictable\" subtly subverts the traditional notion of romantic love as a stable, enduring force. Instead, Lauren hints at the inherent uncertainty and messiness of human connection.\n\n**How to Use This**\n\nTo apply this mindset today, consider embracing the imperfections and unpredictabilities of relationships. Rather than idealizing love or expecting it to conform to societal norms, focus on cultivating an open and adaptable approach to navigating its complexities. By doing so, you'll be better equipped to handle life's unexpected twists and turns in your personal and professional relationships.",{"id":71,"quote_text":72,"author_id":5,"source_id":15,"has_image":21,"author":73,"source":74,"quote_tag":75,"commentary":9},3215041,"Things don’t last forever, so I shouldn’t waste a single minute.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":77,"quote_text":78,"author_id":5,"source_id":79,"has_image":21,"author":80,"source":81,"quote_tag":82,"commentary":9},825607,"I want to roll my eyes, but I'm pretty soon they're going to get stuck in the back of my head, and penis puns are really not worth my permanent facial damage.",2,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[83],{"id":84,"tag":85},3772847,{"id":86,"tag_name":87},63,"funny",{"currentPage":89,"totalPages":13,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":90},1,10]