[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"$f8U2tSjaqerySV_Hp7-NgmUjdJCh0BgZvM_YdKSgwQ5Q":3,"$fKQUwXXK55zoTod3FP8kkRHUaIR4be3Fy6aq0xFPV4sc":12},{"author":4,"tags":11},{"author_id":5,"author_name":6,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"bio":9,"short_bio":9,"slug":10,"image_url":9},80763,"Leil Lowndes","L",13,null,"leil-lowndes",[],{"quotes":13,"pagination":97},[14,23,29,35,41,47,59,68,77,86],{"id":15,"quote_text":16,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":19,"source":20,"quote_tag":21,"commentary":22},3219839,"At the end of the conversation, look the individual right in the eye. Say his or her name and proceed to curl all ten toes with the Killer Compliment.",6,false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\n\nLeil Lowndes, a renowned expert on relationships and communication, likely penned these words in her book \"How to Make Anyone Do Anything\" or another self-help publication from the 20th century. The era of writing was marked by a growing interest in effective communication and psychological manipulation, reflecting the societal norms of the time.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\n\nAt first glance, the quote appears to be about delivering an insult or backhanded compliment to someone. However, upon closer examination, it reveals that Lowndes is actually teaching the reader how to disarm their opponent through a calculated risk: by acknowledging and mirroring their name and then immediately following up with a subtle jab, the individual can momentarily stun their adversary into submission.\n\n**How to Use This**\n\nTo apply this technique in modern professional settings, consider using it as a last resort when dealing with an entrenched negotiator or unyielding colleague. 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But if, by alcohol, you mean noble drink which promotes good fellowship and makes every meal a pleasure, then I am against it.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":30,"quote_text":31,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":32,"source":33,"quote_tag":34,"commentary":9},3219806,"Your eyes are personal grenades that have the power to detonate people’s emotions.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":36,"quote_text":37,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":38,"source":39,"quote_tag":40,"commentary":9},3219802,"I always try to turn the spotlight on the other person.” The longer you keep it shining away from you, the more interesting he or she finds you.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":42,"quote_text":43,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":44,"source":45,"quote_tag":46,"commentary":9},3219793,"Do humanity and yourself a favor. 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