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However, upon closer examination, it reveals a more nuanced understanding of human relationships and the psychological dynamics at play. Lee is suggesting that, rather than seeking friendships solely as a means to an end (e.g., career advancement or emotional support), we should instead prioritize connections that have inherent value and can endure over time.\n\n**How to Use This**\nTo apply this mindset in your own life, consider prioritizing relationships with people who demonstrate genuine interest and investment in you beyond any immediate benefits. 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The era in which he wrote was during the 1960s-70s, a time of great social change and upheaval, where individuals were grappling with their identities and relationships.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nThe quote reveals a counter-intuitive truth that challenges traditional notions of friendship and acceptance. It suggests that some people are inherently resistant to genuine connections, and that it's not always our fault if someone rejects us; rather, it may be due to the other person's limitations or character flaws.\n\n**How to Use This**\nIn modern application, this mindset can help individuals avoid over-investing in toxic relationships or feeling personally responsible for others' rejection. 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