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It was as though we were all crazed customers at some kind of year-end shoe sale, shoving our fellow females out of the way as we clutched desperately at the few remaining pieces of merchandise. I had the discouraging sense that our culture had created female monsters, dooming us to play out these intense and bitter rivalries almost against our will.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[64,67,72],{"id":65,"tag":66},3063789,{"id":30,"tag_name":31},{"id":68,"tag":69},3063788,{"id":70,"tag_name":71},3331,"rivalry",{"id":73,"tag":74},3063787,{"id":75,"tag_name":76},4310,"analogy",{"id":78,"quote_text":79,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":80,"source":81,"quote_tag":82,"commentary":9},572387,"Every time we cheer the downfall of a powerful woman, we're giving ourselves the message that power is bad and we shouldn't desire it. Every time we revel in a beautiful woman's aging or weight gain, we reinforce the idea that we, too, are less valuable if we are old or overweight. Every time we gloat over a woman's loss of a husband to a younger, prettier rival, we are reminding ourselves that our own relationship is unstable, that someday our man, too, will move on to greener pastures.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[83,86,89,92],{"id":84,"tag":85},3063765,{"id":25,"tag_name":26},{"id":87,"tag":88},3063766,{"id":30,"tag_name":31},{"id":90,"tag":91},3063764,{"id":70,"tag_name":71},{"id":93,"tag":94},3063763,{"id":95,"tag_name":96},3935,"failure",{"id":98,"quote_text":99,"author_id":5,"source_id":17,"has_image":18,"author":100,"source":101,"quote_tag":102,"commentary":119},153976,"Although previous studies had suggested that friendship--male and female--could be a powerful antidote to stress, more recent research indicates that broken promises, dashed expectations, and other side effects of friendship gone wrong can actually raise the level of stress in our lives, often to disastrous effect.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[103,108,111,116],{"id":104,"tag":105},991274,{"id":106,"tag_name":107},89,"friendship",{"id":109,"tag":110},991278,{"id":30,"tag_name":31},{"id":112,"tag":113},991277,{"id":114,"tag_name":115},2588,"stress",{"id":117,"tag":118},991276,{"id":70,"tag_name":71},"**The Backstory**\n\nThis quote from Susan Shapiro Barash's work is likely set against the backdrop of her extensive research into women's friendships, relationships, and stress management in contemporary society. As a behavioral psychologist and historian interested in her biography, I note that Barash's writings often explore the complexities of female relationships, challenging traditional narratives of friendship as uniformly supportive.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\n\nWhat lies beneath this quote is the counter-intuitive truth that even positive relationships can sometimes become sources of stress. The initial assumption might be that \"friendship\" inherently mitigates stress, but the more nuanced reading reveals that the stress caused by broken promises and dashed expectations can be just as debilitating as external pressures.\n\n**How to Use This**\n\nIn applying this insight to modern professional or creative lives, it's crucial to recognize that even supportive relationships can sometimes contribute to increased stress levels. By acknowledging this potential pitfall, individuals can take proactive steps to establish clear boundaries, communicate openly, and prioritize self-care in their social connections.",{"currentPage":121,"totalPages":121,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":122},1,10]