[{"data":1,"prerenderedAt":-1},["ShallowReactive",2],{"$f9EToY4a-buQnnO33dG4r5wufuDotOlLsWTXQqReZTCQ":3,"$fTre38HWvcT6GSMak7aj21QcBFrty0_J9eDtXbGfU6Hc":16},{"author":4,"tags":11},{"author_id":5,"author_name":6,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"bio":9,"short_bio":9,"bio_jsonld":9,"slug":10,"image_url":9},2061,"Sylvia Boorstein","S",35,null,"sylvia-boorstein",[12],{"tag_id":13,"tag_name":14,"tag_count":15},6607,"buddha",5,{"quotes":17,"pagination":81},[18,26,33,39,45,51,57,63,69,75],{"id":19,"quote_text":20,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":23,"source":24,"quote_tag":25,"commentary":9},3459973,"Sometimes I think the only thing worth saying is “I love you.",6,false,{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":27,"quote_text":28,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":29,"source":30,"quote_tag":31,"commentary":32},3459966,"The Buddha’s criteria for Wise Speech include – in addition to the obvious expectation that speech be truthful – that it be timely, gentle, motivated by kindness, and helpful.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],"**The Backstory**\nSylvia Boorstein, a renowned Buddhist teacher and author, wrote about the Buddha's criteria for Wise Speech in her book \"It's Easier Than You Think: The Private Papers of a Western Woman in Japan.\" In this context, she was reflecting on the importance of mindful communication in everyday life. As a Zen practitioner and student of Tibetan Buddhism, Boorstein drew from the rich traditions of Buddhist teachings to share practical wisdom with her readers.\n\n**The Hidden Insight**\nAt first glance, Wise Speech seems like a straightforward concept – speaking truthfully, kindly, and helpfully. However, upon closer examination, it reveals a paradoxical tension between two seemingly conflicting demands: being timely (speaking when it matters most) and being gentle (avoiding offense or hurt). This subtle balance reflects the complex interplay between assertiveness and sensitivity in effective communication.\n\n**How to Use This**\nTo apply this mindset today, consider incorporating \"temporal mindfulness\" into your interactions – paying attention not just to what you say but also when you say it. By balancing timeliness with kindness, you can navigate challenging conversations with greater ease and precision, cultivating relationships that are both honest and compassionate.",{"id":34,"quote_text":35,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":36,"source":37,"quote_tag":38,"commentary":9},3459960,"My redeemer is always the person next to me.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":40,"quote_text":41,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":42,"source":43,"quote_tag":44,"commentary":9},3459949,"If we can keep at least a bit of the mind clear about temporality, we can mange complicated, even difficult, times with grace.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":46,"quote_text":47,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":48,"source":49,"quote_tag":50,"commentary":9},3459943,"Mindfulness is attentiveness, moment to moment. What’s happening right now and what’s coming up in me in response to what’s happening right now. Importantly, this is in the service of being able to choose wisely so that I avoid complicating my own life and the lives of others.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":52,"quote_text":53,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":54,"source":55,"quote_tag":56,"commentary":9},3459938,"People are realizing that what seemed important to them in their lives-materialism and consumerism-doesn’t work at all to make a happy heart. It actually makes an unhappy heart. And an unhappy world.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":58,"quote_text":59,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":60,"source":61,"quote_tag":62,"commentary":9},3459933,"Spirituality doesn’t look like sitting down and meditating. Spirituality looks like folding the towels in a sweet way and talking kindly to the people in the family eve though you’ve had a rough day.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":64,"quote_text":65,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":66,"source":67,"quote_tag":68,"commentary":9},3459924,"Steadfast benevolence, sustained by the wisdom that anything other than benevolence is painful, protects the mind from all afflictions.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":70,"quote_text":71,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":72,"source":73,"quote_tag":74,"commentary":9},3459917,"The voice of Thich Nhat Hanh-friendly, patient, steadfast, confident, contemporary, and often witty-seems, to me, an intermediary big brother talking directly to me on every page saying, ‘Look! It’s right there in you,’ the very wisdom that leads to compassion.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"id":76,"quote_text":77,"author_id":5,"source_id":21,"has_image":22,"author":78,"source":79,"quote_tag":80,"commentary":9},3459909,"The prohibition of L’shon Hara is the Jewish equivalent of the Buddhist practice of Right Speech.",{"id":5,"author_name":6,"slug":10,"author_name_first_letter":7,"article_count":8,"image_url":9},{},[],{"currentPage":82,"totalPages":83,"totalItems":8,"itemsPerPage":84},1,4,10]