47 Quotes About Five-gifts

The three cycles of loss center on our sense of control, safety, and identity.

Humility—the first gift—can help us surrender to an event outside our control, one we couldn’t prevent and was not our fault

In uncharted territory, we need new thinking, new ways of processing intense emotions, and new behavioral choices.

Breathing is our primary nonverbal language. Sharp, uneven breaths convey a message of stress even though someone might insist she is perfectly all right.

The second gift––patience––helps us deal with not knowing how long this is going to last.

Patience allows you to shift attention in a positive way.

The unrealistic belief that we are somehow entitled to go through life unmoved by other people’s suffering further limits our ability to cope with our own.

Our capacity to disregard and discount viscerally painful experiences is so ingrained that we have come to believe that “moving forward” means not allowing ourselves to be moved at all.

It’s impossible to predict how the heart heals or how long it is going to take.