37 Quotes by Carolyn Hax

Trust isn’t about having a spotless record and finding someone else who does. It’s about finding someone good-hearted enough not to hurt you on purpose, and knowing you’ll recover and carry on when pain inevitably comes.

Minimizing exposure to miserable people is nothing short of a life strategy.

You don’t want someone who can’t tell the difference between having a different opinion and dismissing your opinion.

I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.

Your job is to be you, which includes being the chief beneficiary of all things you do right, the chief victim of all you do wrong, and the one person on Earth who has to live with every choice you make. As gatekeeper to your life, you’re it.

I believe in innocence until there’s proof of guilt and all that.

The most reliable ways to make oneself miserable are attempting to change people and not attempting to change circumstances.

You don’t want to be with someone who is already not getting from you what he needs emotionally.

Being negative is easy. There will always be a downside to everything good, a hurdle to everything desirable, a con to every pro. The real courage is in finding the good in what you have, the opportunities in every hurdle, the pros in every con.