28 Quotes by David A. Carbonell

If you find yourself arguing with yourself, there's one thing you can count on – you're not going to win this argument.

You get more worried as a result of your effort to stop worrying. That's the heart of the trick.

It may surprise you to hear that what you worry about, the specific content of your worrisome thoughts, isn't usually all that important. What's most important is how you relate to your worrisome thoughts, whatever their content may be.

If you feel that you have too much worry in your life and want to have less, you can probably learn to shrink the role of worry plays in your life.

This most often takes the form of an argumentative, fighting kind of relationship in which you persistently struggle to control and change your worrisome thoughts, only to find that the more you resist and oppose them, the more persistent they become.

Chronic worries don't get solved because there really isn't anything to solve. The worry just gets repeated until it's replaced by something else.

When you struggle against your worries, you generally get more worry rather than less.

You'll have thoughts that tell you something bad could possibly happen sometime in the future. And that's true. Its always true, whether you have thoughts about it or not. Anything is possible, bad things sometimes do happen, and nobody knows the future.

Thoughts are ideas. Feelings are emotions, and they're quite different from thoughts. Thoughts can be true or false, or somewhere in between. Feelings are emotional responses that don't involve true or false.