6 Quotes by Mark Leary

All of us, have our antenna up for people who might harm us in one way or another, not just people who might hurt us physically, but also for people who might treat us unfairly, take advantage of us, cheat us or fail to do their share. And we react very strongly to be misleading by other people, is part of human nature, to guard against being hurt and exploited.

Negative emotions are often functional. They tell you when things need to change about the environment or yourself.

The paradox about narcissism is that we all have this streak of egotism. Eighty percent of people think they're better than average.

You filter the cues that you get from others through your self-concept.

The more accurate you are about how others perceive you, the better you fare socially. Think of a person who thinks he's really funny but isn't. He interprets polite laughter as genuine laughter, but everyone is on to him and annoyed by him.

Although Western society has emphasized the importance of high self-esteem, the more important thing may be to have self-compassion, the ability to treat oneself kindly in the face of failure, rejection, defeat and other negative events.