6 Quotes by Nina Hartley

You don't talk dirty to make him hot. You "talk dirty" to communicate what you need. And most guys, if you go, "Yeah, yeah, just like that, a little more to the left," they'll do it.

It takes a certain skill set to be partnered. You have the biological knowledge of the machine. What are the parts, where are they located, how do they work, what do they do? Then there is your intellectual understanding about sex, in history, what you believe about sex, what you were taught about sex. Then there's you intrapersonal skill, your relationship with yourself. Then there are interpersonal skills.

Sex is my practice. It's where I always strive to be my best self. I try to be as honest as possible, as present as possible, as centered as possible, as kind as possible, as generous as possible without being a doormat.

You don’t talk dirty to make him hot. You “talk dirty” to communicate what you need. And most guys, if you go, “Yeah, yeah, just like that, a little more to the left,” they’ll do it.

I became a kinesthetic person because I always overintellectualize. And feelings, for me, are a concept. Feelings? Ah yes, I’ve heard of those.

I have instant compassion for men as equal human beings. Equally beaten down by the patriarchy and equally lost and wandering. At least women get to hug each other.