34 Quotes by Philippa Perry

Quite often, when we think we are listening, all we are doing is waiting for a gap for an opportunity to speak back; we use our energy to compose our responses or our reply rather than to try to understand what the other person is trying to communicate,

Quite often, when we would prefer that something wasn't happening or hadn't happened, we lie by omission to our children. It it natural to want to protect our children from difficult feelings , but it is not their feelings that are a problem, it is our being terrified of their feelings that's the problem.

It is more useful to make a meaning like that about childcare than it is to look around the mess in your home and feel you have nothing to show, no results, for your day's work. The results will come, just not at the end of every single day, like they might in other types of work. When we adopt the habit of impact on use, parenting does become rewarding.

When psychotherapy began, it was about the practitioner listening to a patient and interpreting what the patient said, in order to afford the patient insights about his or her psyche. But now we understand that the main curative part of psychotherapy is the relationship itself. It appears not to be relevant which psychology school the practitioner belongs to. What matters is the quality of the relationship and the practitioner's belief in what he or she is offering.

A sense of achievement improves general confidence and self-esteem.

Two brains are better than one. You’ve twice the brain capacity and you have two sets of experiences and genes to bring to any challenge.

Neurogenesis continues throughout life and we have the capacity to establish new neural pathways and strengthen existing ones.

Meditation is focused attention and the more we practise focusing our brains the more connections we build up.

I am talking about being optimistic enough to sow some seeds in the hope that some of them will germinate and grow into flowers.