5 Quotes by Radhika Vaz

When you want to do something that isn’t the ‘norm’ you will be made to feel like you have a problem and if you hear it often enough then you start to believe it too.

How come when a woman says she wants a baby no one ever asks ‘why?

We have been made to believe that a baby is basically a magical agent of change and that having one will, in one fell swoop, make your husband love you more, make your life more meaningful and, above all else, is the best thing you will ever do as a woman. I didn’t care about any of it

What ‘next level’ I wanted to scream! The level of sleepless nights and zero disposable income? Is being constantly tired and borderline broke supposed to make us more in love or something? And what makes you think that as a couple we haven’t already reached that level of pain and anxiety? Perhaps we did it without having kids! Maybe that is how fabulous we are. Did anyone think of that?

Having a baby or not having one was not his decision. It was mine. There isn’t a single couple where when it comes to having a baby the man’s decision counted in any real way. Couples who have babies usually have them because the woman involved is determined to do so. The only time a man’s POV counts is if he is a domineering, insecure jackass with no respect for you or your body. Most men think it would be ‘nice’ and then go along with whatever you want.