25 Quotes by Robert Dessaix

John Cleese, in a clever, funny talk he gave on creativity years ago, said you also need a sense of humour if you want to be creative. You can’t manufacture a sense of humour, but if you don’t have one, then you might indeed be better off reporting facts. Art is not about reporting. Pg 232

Is happy the same as contented do you think?... as I see it, happiness is something that comes in bursts from outside – love at first sight, winning at chess, getting good news. Happiness is something that seizes you. ...I think of contentment as an everyday thing. It’s what you feel when you don’t want anything more – until you do. It’s nice, but it needs a shot of happiness now and again. Pg264

She loves throwing things out. At home alone during the week before she fell over all she did was throw things out – blouses, old dinner-sets, shoes, vases, mugs, sheets and rugs. It excited her to empty cupboards, to wipe down the empty shelves, to take the things we were throwing out to the tip, she loved our trips to the tip, her mind quickened at the prospect of the tip. Pg 254

...'undertow'. It describes (...) how underneath our own everyday lives - the shopping and squabbles and weeding and trips to the vet - there's a sense of being dragged slowly off, not against our will but regardless of it. And fighting the undertow, as children are quick to learn, is not usually the best way of getting back to the beach. Floating along with it, on the other hand, can be fatal. It's really the struggle, the argument with oneself, that interests...

But life isn’t about finding yourself or finding anything, Dylan said, it’s about creating yourself. Pg 234

Best not to say what you think in order to give offence, obviously, not if you’re nice, as we are. Whatever you say, though, someone will feel offended. On that question, I rather side with the Stoics, The Stoics held that offence has to be taken, it can’t just be given, so we should try not to take it in the first place. Pg 291

I hardly have the words to analyse why I like or love a piece of music – I have words, of course, but a layman’s words, I don’t really know what a cadence is, let alone a Phrygian cadence or an augmented sixth. Pg260

The Odyssey and Iliad say things about the human condition in ways we should re-acquaint ourselves with, and use as a prism to interpret though.

In the theatre, you are in love with what is on the stage, with the moment. You just don’t get that with movies or videos, or TV, where you know that what you are seeing is repeatable.