3 Quotes by Robert Page

For reasons that are unclear, the BP doesn’t develop in the same way. Their self-image stopped forming before it was able to fully take hold. I know this is difficult for a non-BP to grasp, but try to consider how terrifying it must feel to not be sure that you exist except for how others see you. Take away “others” and what happens to a BP? Poof! They see themselves as obliterated.

According to Stop Walking on Eggshells, a BP experiencing this symptom will feel the following: – There is “nothing to me” – They are different people depending on who they are with – Being alone leaves them without a sense of self – They are dependent on others for cues about how to behave, what to think, and how to be.

It took me years to grapple with the concept that most of my wife’s bizarre actions were beyond her control. She was not able to make any other decision at the time other than the one that was usually the most counterintuitive and destructive. At her worst, the BPD was in a position of absolute dominance over her.