12 Quotes by Rudolf Dreikurs

A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water.

The wish to gain complete possession of somebody is expressed most plainly by jealousy. Jealousy is never a sign of love. It only indicates fear of not being able to hold another person.

A misbehaving child, is a discouraged child.

We cannot protect our children from life. Therefore, it is essential that we prepare them for it.

We can change our whole life and attitude of the people around us simply by changing ourselves...

Man does not see reality as it is, but only as he perceives it, and his perception may be mistaken or biased.

Whoever alters a person’s expectations changes his behavior.

When a child makes a mistake or fails to accomplish a certain goal, we must avoid any word or action which indicates that we consider him a failure. ‘Too bad that didn’t work.’ ‘I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you.’ We need to separate the deed from the doer.

When children are allowed to help make family decisions, they tend to be much more supportive and happier with family life. Also when allowed to help make rules, they will follow them much closer than if rules are forced on them. All these add up to a happier home for all.