32 Quotes by Stephen Grosz

En otras palabras, la fantasías paranoides son perturbadoras, pero también son un mecanismo de defensa. Nos protegen de un desastre emocional mayor; a saber, el sentimiento de que nadie se preocupa por nosotros, de que no le importamos a nadie.

...the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The future is not some place we’re going to, but an idea is our mind now. It is something we’re creating, that in turn creates us. The future is a fantasy that shapes our present.

Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.

For a minute, the fantasy frightened her, but ultimately, this fear saved her from feeling alone.

Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is hard work. But isn't this attentiveness -- the feeling that someone is trying to think about us -- something we want more than praise?

The author Karen Blixen once said, 'All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell a story about them.' But what if a person can't tell a story about his sorrows? What if his story tells him?

Ante todo, las fantasías paranoides son una respuesta al sentimiento de que estamos siendo tratados con indiferencia.

Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand - when you're loved, someone wants more of you.

A lot of people, especially psychoanalysts, assume that happiness can only be found in a couple - but not all of us are made for a relationship.