32 Quotes by Stephen Grosz

When I'm in a couple, I feel I'm disappearing, dying - losing my mind.

As he spoke, I had the mental image of a small boy switching on the nightlight, not because he wants to be able to find his parents during the night, but because he fears his parents will forget him - lose him - in the dark.

Pyschoanalysts are fond of pointing out that the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The future is not some place we're going to, but an idea in our mind now. It is something we're creating, that in turn creates us. The future is a fantasy that shapes our present.

La gratitud nos lleva hacia el amor. Si no apreciamos a alguien, es imposible quererlo. Pero muchos sienten miedo de rendirse al amor.

Al enfrentarnos al cambio dudamos, porque el cambio es pérdida. Pero si no aceptamos cierta pérdida, podemos perderlo todo.

En un momento u otro, todos tratamos de silenciar las emociones dolorosas. Pero cuando conseguimos no sentir nada, perdemos el único medio que tenemos de averiguar qué nos hiere, y por qué.

Es mejor haber perdido algo que ser ese algo que alguien olvidó.

La negatividad -el estado mental de preferiría no hacerlo- es nuestro deseo de darle la espalda al mundo, rechazando todo tipo de necesidades y apetitos.

Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is hard work. But isn’t this attentiveness – the feeling that someone is trying to think about us – something we want more than praise?