The question is: do you want suffering or do you want peace? It's that simple.

Every grievance you hold hides a little more of the light of the world from your eyes until the darkness becomes overwhelming. Everything you forgive restores that light. So ask yourself, who is it that you are really hurting?

You blame others to save attacking yourself. Neither is necessary. You are not as you think and nor is anyone else.

We are not trying to abide the darkness. We are choosing to sit where it is sunny and warm

If we try every day to find that place inside us that can see a little more light and give a little more love, the quality of our life will improve significantly. We all long for love. It is the human inheritance to have such a longing. However, we must discover that in order to find it, we must give it. And when we learn to give it, we find that it is, quite amazingly, everywhere around us.

Forgiving others is something we give ourselves every day.

If someone else’s actions betray our sensitivities, is it a betrayal or is it that the person is simply doing what they want; what they perceive as in the best interests of their own happiness? Just because something hurts us, does it mean we are betrayed? Maybe, they are just living their lives.

True forgiveness totally alters our perception. It sees the spiritual truth and loses sight of the alternatives. Our ego refuses to do this because its main food is remembering the wrongdoings against us even if they are entirely fabricated. To choose to see a different reality leaves the ego no room. It is the healing space. It is the beautiful space. It is the space of love and happiness.

You can turn every ugly and damaging drama into a genuine blessing by seeing it differently. No one is suffering on purpose. We learn to give up the pleasure we feel in self-righteously blaming others. Healing happens when we see things differently. The question is: do you want suffering or peace? It's that simple.