We never have as great an opportunity to show self-comfort as when others around us aren’t. Hint: Don’t be a jerk because someone else is. Praise the behaviors in others that you most want to flourish.

See others’ slights or outright insults as opportunities to show equanimity, spurring observers to do the same, unified with you around a best side of us. Opportunity Makers demonstrate that being a strong team player is as important as being the leader. Think well of yourself. The subconscious can't take a joke.

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Speak sooner to sweet spot of shared interest to cultivate a meaningful connection, first step to creating something greater together.Share the story in which others see a role they want to play so they’ll re- share it to make it “our” storyWhoever most vividly characterizes a situation usually determines how others see it, talk about it, and make decisions about it

Strangers can be consequential when you want to practice an atrophied or unexplored facet of you, as they don’t know how you usually act.

It's not the number of contacts you cultivate but the diversity and depth of connections that leverage your opportunity to use best talents more often to accomplish more.

Create a clear explanation: Ask an expert & novice to craft it: Expert knows too much (curse of knowledge) and novice sees it with fresh eyes. Offer verbal snapshots that penetrate the mind and the gut in an instant then linger, leaving a bright after image. Whoever most vividly characterizes a situation usually determines how others see it, talk about it, and make decisions about it.

Bring out others better side and they are more likely to see and support yours. You can't develop positive people with negative feedback. What you praise in others, you'll encourage to flourish. People like people who like them.

Whatever most captures your mind controls your life.