Being controlling, being judgmental, or always having to be right are other ways that adults may inflict trauma on children.

No matter what kind of trauma we experienced as a child, we replay that loop through our choices of friends, hobbies, careers, and relationships.

When we become an expert in our trauma history and know how we self-victimize and drop into denial, we have an opportunity to create a new reality with a new neural pathway in our brain.

As noted, since we store our memories physically in our body, we are depositing our trauma physically in our body.

Trauma happens to us. When it does, our authentic self and power is taken from us.

We deny, suppress, repress, and minimize our trauma to preserve our self-concept. By doing so, we set ourselves up for repeating the cycle again.

Our brain and body become addicted to the feelings associated with our trauma and our worst day because they have been firing more than any other feeling.

No matter what kind of childhood we’ve had, nobody escapes trauma while growing up.

For those of us who haven’t been taught how to deal with our trauma, we get stuck living in the worst day ever. The intense feelings of those moments replay themselves throughout our life because, in an effort to heal, we unintentionally and proactively seek them out and re-inflict them upon ourselves.