We give it up and just look directly with compassion and humor at who we are. Then loneliness is no threat and heartache, no punishment.

We're afraid that this anger or sorrow or loneliness is going to last forever... Instead, acting it out is what makes it last.

So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even one, that's the journey of the warrior. (68)

It's not a terrible thing that we feel fear when faced with the unknown. It is a part of being alive, something we all share. We react against the possibility of loneliness, of death, of not having anything to hold on to. Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.

Better to join in with humanity than to set ourselves apart.