The greater the gap between self perception and reality, the more aggression is unleashed on those who point out the discrepancy.

I never really grew up until I had kids.

For the most part, people strenuously resist any redefinition of morality, because it shakes them to the very core of their being to think that in pursuing virtue they may have been feeding vice, or in fighting vice they may have in fact been fighting virtue.

Vengeance against predators is meals on wheels.