53 Quotes About Healing-from-abuse

You know you left a toxic person when you're smiling more, laughing louder, opportunities come flooding in, looking great, feeling great and everything is in perfect balance even on the not so perfect days...Because these are the very things a toxic person drains from you. Revoke their VIP access from your life.

CHANGE IS POSSIBLE ONCE YOU MAKE A CONSCIOUS CHOICE TO CREATE A FUTURE POSITIVELY DIFFERENT TO A PAST YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE

Complexly traumatized children need to be helped to engage their attention in pursuits that do not remind them of trauma-related triggers and that give them a sense of pleasure and mastery. Safety, predictability, and "fun" are essential for the establishment of the capacity to observe what is going on, put it into a larger context, and initiate physiological and motoric self-regulation.

There is no one way to recover and heal from any trauma. Each survivor chooses their own path or stumbles across it.

Few of us have a healthy sense of boundaries. We either have rigid boundaries (“No one is ever going to get close to me”) or weak boundaries (“I’ll be anything anyone wants me to be”). Rigid boundaries lead to distance and isolation; weak boundaries, to over-dependency and sometimes, further abuse. The ideal is to develop flexible boundaries, boundaries which can vary depending on the circumstances.

Jake guessed Henry had been pulling shit like this on him so long that Eddie only noticed it when Henry pulled it on someone else – someone like the blonde ticket-seller.

Abuse is never deserved, it is an exploitation of innocence and physical disadvantage, which is perceived as an opportunity by the abuser.

Forgiveness is the meaning of grace. Grace to love yourself enough to be willing to put your trust in releasing the pain attached to whatever messed up stuff happened to you. This is for you, not them.

You deserve freedom. You owe it to yourself. You are anything but selfish whenever you decide to stand up for yourself!