875 Quotes About Shame

A perpetrator may have hurt someone for a few minutes of his/her life and may even regret it, but the survivor lives with the pain, triggers, shame and fear for a lifetime.

Fear of shame keeps a good part of our civilization’s ability hidden and minds ignorant.

If a woman sleeps alone it puts a shame on all men. God has a very big heart, but there is one sin He will not forgive. If a woman calls a man to her bed and he will not go.

Sometimes we don’t need an apology right away. We’re better off letting that person feel their own shame before we give them any relief from their actions.

For Achilles, the death of Patroclus pushed him into a fury, but it was not only grief that drove him. It was also a sense of shame and guilt because he had not been there to protect his friend. Sometimes men in combat feel this sort of survivor’s guilt even though, realistically, they could have done nothing to prevent their comrade’s death.

Once a broken bone heals, it is often strongest at the point of the fracture. In the same way, God can take the shame of past failures and amazingly redirect their outcomes toward your future success.

THE MISTThey fell asleep and dreamed a fog.They had words but not meaning.And with the mist, there came a fear.The mist grew thicker.A whispered voice from the Great Beyond.Love will heal the people.It washed away the scent of shame.No one said, “It should not be so.”There was silence.What is it? A strange feeling.Foreign at first but now familiar.We do not have to hide.The crystal light extends out.Pulsing with aliveness.The memory of pain passes.What were we so afraid of?

We’re not broken. We’re not in the wrong bodies. We’re not inadequate. We’re not lesser. We’re not unwanted. We’re not fraudulent. We’re not undesirable. That’s all just a set of lies we tell to soothe the experience of the prisons we put ourselves in.

Your mistakes are to help you develop your purpose, not shame and guilt.