226 Quotes About Survivors

It appears that DDNOS is the intentional goal of these abusers, but DID sometimes results from a failure of programming. In DDNOS, the ANP is always present, even when another part is in control of the behavior and feelings.

It is important to learn about being multiple, and what works for their healing, from your client. To work with the alters, rather than trying to get the ANP to control the rest of the personality system.

The experience of chronic abuse carries within it the gross mislabeling of things. Perpetrators are really "nice daddies." Victims are "evil and seductive" (at the age of three!). Nonprotecting parents are "tired and busy." The survivor makes a giant leap forward when [he or ]she can call abuse by its right name and grasp the concept that what was done was a manifestation of the heart of the perpetrator, not the heart of the victim.

Be a victor, not a victim.

...there is a particular focus of the problem faced only by men. It arises from our culture providing no room for a man as victim.

Gratitude is a conscious choice and survivors owe it to themselves to accept this as one of their greatest tools used to rebuild their life.

Gratitude is a conscious choice and survivors owe it to themselves to accept this as one of the greatest tools used to rebuild their life.

Survivors can't always choose their methods.

If the abuser is a parent or caretaker, the abuse may be the most attention the child has had from that person. To the child, withholding attention can be a powerful form of coercion. Sexual molestation may be accompanied by physical expressions of affection that are sometimes the only affection the child receives.