That we wanted to believe the best in others and the worst in ourselves and then finally, in order to heal, we saw with clarity that it was the other way around"--Alice Little, No Contact Survivor

Even the good times were bad. Nostalgia is a trap. When you can look back clearly you will see that even when you had the most amazing experiences the red flags were there. Good times, gifts, anything given by a narcissist was not for you. Only to keep you as narcissistic supply!

Speaking to narcissists and imagining having a normal human interaction is called delusion." Alice Little, Narcissistic Abuse Truths

Kindness from a narcissist is called an illusion." Alice Little

Even the good imes were bad. Nostalgia is a trap. When you can look back clearly you will see that even when you had the most amazing experiences the red flags were there. Good times, gifts, anything given by a narcissist was not for you. Only to keep you as narcissistic supply!

Narcissistic abuse is not just that someone dumped you or who you had a little tiff with them. NA is psychological abuse and brainwashing using intermittent reward and punishment, coercive control and withholding normal empathetic, emotional reactions to lower your self esteem.

The worst lies were the lies I told myself about the lies others told me

Narcissists withhold affection to punish you. Withhold attention to get revenge. And withhold an emotional empathetic response to make you feel insecure.

During the discard phase the ignoring and silences that the narcissist uses and the cold hateful stares send coldness to your very spirit. Fire turns to ice,love to hate, attention to abandonment. It stays with you that malignant cruelty.

The only good decision you will make while with them is leaving!