If you are currently in a relationship in which you are also willing to ‘do anything to make him happy,’ even at your own expense, I want you to stop reading our book. Mark this page, close the book, and hit yourself over the head with it. Then continue reading.

Girls... only lift the veil over your body to the spouse who is worthy to see the glory of that unveiled mystery.

Because of my value, I veil myself... If I show too much, I wouldn’t be revealing my true worth to you. I’d be distracting you from what matters most.

Even as you seek a virtuous, fair, and good spouse,... it is fitting that you should be the same. – Saint Bernardino of Siena.

Only falsehood wraps itself in a flood of words. Truth is brief.

The woman is seen as the seductress, the occasion of sin. But in John Paul’s mind, lust is a problem of the heart, not the body. Blaming the body for lust is a loophole to avoid the true issue: our hearts.104 If every woman clothed herself from head to toe, lust would remain. Put differently, a thief does not become a philanthropist when jewels are locked away. The cause of theft is not the jewels in the window of the store but the greed in the heart of the robber.

If by how you dress, you are saying to guys, “Hey, look at my body,” why would a guy want to get to know you?

If you own pornography of any kind, for the love of your future spouse, trash it immediately.

If you sincerely want to know if you’re “going too far,” don’t ask yourself, “Is this bad?” Instead ask yourself, “Is this pure?”

When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, and goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her.