Focus on anticipating what serendipity if bringing... because it’s the past, present, and future colliding.

Our experience taught us we were alone so we have to break through barriers of shame, fear, and habit to realize the time has come to find help.

Awareness is a gentle beauty. It hovers around me like a fairy, pointing to those things I would miss if I didn’t look past the obvious and on the other side of busy.

Dissociated trauma memories are not attached to other memories by association. These memories go directly to the unconscious as a biological response separates awareness from consciousness. It’s a natural, protective occurrence and it happens without will.

I think most survivors transfer the shame of their experience into their present-day healing and become ashamed of themselves for needing the time and support.

Each survivor chooses how secrecy is going to fit into their healing. Some share with their immediate family, but not their childhood family and friends.

With the help of your therapist or healing ally, you can identify who makes you feel uneasy, concerned, scared, or defensive.

You invite a time in the near future when you are no longer building your life on the unknown influences of your childhood sexual abuse.

We can deny our experience, but our body remembers.

So many moments of potential holiday joy got buried in the pain of our abuse. Now these days offer us a chance to give our inner child the gift of caring. Sometimes it's as simple as asking, "What do you want?" Most often the answer is a small thing.Be a Santa to your wounded child and feel the healing passed forward to you.